| Approve.....................7 | |
| or to have weaknesses which you may not approve of, but also not to love you. If | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| because of your exaggerated need to have everyone approve of you. That is what makes reality so | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| or bad as long as they love, appreciate, approve, and protect him or her. All evaluation of | 84 LOVE, POWER, SERENITY AS DIVINE ATTRIBUTES AND AS DISTORTIONS |
| others with your illusory concept that unless they approve of you you are lost, while, at the | 143 UNITY AND DUALITY |
| people -- whether you like them or not, approve of them or not, whether they are developed | 203 INTERPENETRATION OF THE DIVINE LIGHT SPARK INTO THE OUTER REGIONS - MIND EXERCISES |
| direction, your expression -- whether or not others approve and applaud your choices -- you can afford | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| show you my secrets, I demand that you approve of them and of me regardless of how | 252 PRIVACY AND SECRECY |
| Approved....................24 | |
| some personality types the strong desire to be approved by others will manifest in dependence on public | 42 CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS -- OBJECTIVITY AND SUBJECTIVITY |
| graces of someone important for you, or be approved by the people you love. The moment there | 54 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| a stand that makes it impossible to be approved by all, your soul gets into a turmoil | 57 THE MASS IMAGE OF SELF-IMPORTANCE |
| Do you not wish to be loved and approved by everyone, without exception? Do you not wish | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| will were done, if I were loved and approved of. I have no intention of being cruel | 58 THE DESIRE FOR HAPPINESS AND THE DESIRE FOR UNHAPPINESS |
| but not necessarily. There, the desire to be approved may play a much greater part. In this | 61 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| for happiness, you would not be loved or approved of. Since love and approval are so necessary | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| be happy if I am not loved and approved of. Therefore, I must become unhappy, in order | 64 OUTER WILL AND INNER WILL -- MISCONCEPTION ABOUT SELFISHNESS |
| The child would like to be loved and approved of to a much greater extent than is | 66 SHAME OF THE HIGHER SELF |
| desire to be loved the desire to be approved of, to shine, to be better than others | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| love of the people you want to be approved by; there may not be a specific love | 69 THE FOLLY OF WATCHING FOR RESULTS WHILE ON THE PATH; THE VALID DESIRE TO BE LOVED |
| felt, have less need to be catered to, approved of, and agreed with. On the other hand | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| loving produces the urgent desire to be loved, approved of, and so on, the more rigidly and | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| this drive, such as the desire to be approved of and admired, may take the place of | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| being feels threatened by not being loved, admired, approved of or agreed with, the danger is unreal | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| the pseudo-solution that you attempt is to be approved of, admired, envied, and feel powerful. Now an | 87 THE NEXT PHASE ON THE PATH; QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS |
| And when the child was actually successful, she approved of him and was liberal with her praises | 93 THE LINK BETWEEN THE MAIN IMAGE, REPRESSED NEEDS, AND DEFENSES |
| moral standards of others so as to be approved, as well as your guilt, and your fear | 103 HARM OF TOO MUCH LOVE GIVING -- CONSTRUCTIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE WILL FORCES |
| in her excessive need of being loved and approved, or mentally dependent in order to excel over | 122 SELF-FULFILLMENT THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION AS MAN OR WOMAN |
| of every kind, not just to some socially approved forms. A superficial desire for fulfillment is not | 129 WINNER VERSUS LOSER: INTERPLAY BETWEEN THE SELF AND CREATIVE FORCES |
| out the truth for the convenience of being approved of by others. The so-called medicine and the | 150 SELF-LIKING: THE CONDITION FOR UNIVERSAL STATE OF BLISS |
| to be in order to be liked and approved of. During our discussions we have come face | 152 CONNECTION BETWEEN THE EGO AND THE UNIVERSAL POWER |
| says: I need to be always loved and approved of by everyone. If I am not, it | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| unfulfillment of your demand to be loved and approved of by everybody is vague. The reaction is | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| Arbitrariness...............7 | |
| that you can come to harm through the arbitrariness of the god-of-your-image, of life, or fate, or | 60 THE ABYSS OF ILLUSION -- FREEDOM AND SELF-RESPONSIBILITY |
| conscious. Then you will see the contradictions, the arbitrariness of your emotions and how your unconscious concepts | 86 THE INSTINCTS OF SELF-PRESERVATION AND PROCREATION IN CONFLICT |
| to come, you blame the world's injustice and arbitrariness rather than your own error. You are looking | 95 SELF-ALIENATION AND THE WAY BACK TO THE REAL SELF |
| He will no longer guard against the supposed arbitrariness of life against which he feels helpless. Thus | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| lose the sense of helplessness and of the arbitrariness of a willful God he has to appease | 105 HUMANITY'S RELATIONSHIP TO GOD IN VARIOUS STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT |
| universe is a world of chaos and meaningless arbitrariness. When a human being dies in that state | 243 THE GREAT EXISTENTIAL FEAR AND LONGING |
| who were supposed to judge, to imply unfairness, arbitrariness, rejection. This is clearly a projection of humanity's | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Ardently....................26 | |
| the right kind of prayers; you are praying ardently, untiringly, even patiently for the things you should | 35 TURNING TO GOD |
| in many different forms. For instance, if you ardently desire to be loved by or to impress | 71 REALITY AND ILLUSION CONCENTRATION EXERCISES |
| find the real self that you are so ardently looking for in your work. First become aware | 77 SELF-CONFIDENCE: ITS TRUE ORIGIN AND WHAT PROHIBITS IT |
| both. In both instances you hide something and ardently try to prove to yourself and others that | 88 RELIGION: TRUE AND FALSE |
| you gain the security within yourself you so ardently hunt for elsewhere. But you constantly reach for | 89 EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND ITS FUNCTION |
| relinquishing, and flexibility. These latter aspects are most ardently denied by the person who weakens himself due | 121 DISPLACEMENT, SUBSTITUTION, SUPERIMPOSITION |
| question of resolving dualities. There are many who ardently pursue a path of self-exploration yet shy away | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| self-surrender because you are acutely aware that you ardently desire this fulfillment and can experience it without | 123 LIBERATION AND PEACE BY OVERCOMING FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN |
| to work, even prohibiting the very change so ardently striven for by the yes-current. For that purpose | 124 THE LANGUAGE OF THE UNCONSCIOUS |
| with the masks and barriers you have so ardently put up all your life, you will be | 138 THE HUMAN PREDICAMENT OF DESIRE FOR, AND FEAR OF, CLOSENESS |
| of life disregards the superficial morality most people ardently adhere to, or equally ardently fight against. This | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| morality most people ardently adhere to, or equally ardently fight against. This morality is based on the | 145 RESPONDING TO THE CALL OF LIFE |
| that makes possible the transition you seek so ardently with one part of your nature but still | 155 FEAR OF SELF -- GIVING AND RECEIVING |
| not yield what another part of you so ardently wishes. The more the ego cramps up to | 158 THE EGO'S COOPERATION WITH OR OBSTRUCTION OF THE REAL SELF |
| especially when the outer, separated self strives so ardently to find the truth of being, the truth | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| yourself? Why do you have to grope so ardently to experience something so deep within you? Why | 167 FROZEN LIFE CENTER BECOMES ALIVE |
| inner reasons, you yourself deny what you so ardently strive for. Disconnectedness from one's inner voice is | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| for withholding from you what you believe you ardently desire. Another aspect of the problem is unawareness | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| whom you can love, you are really still ardently engaged in trying to fulfill the childhood need | 192 REAL AND FALSE NEEDS |
| you feel for not attaining what you so ardently desire, the greater your inner negative intention and | 195 IDENTIFICATION WITH THE SPIRITUAL SELF TO OVERCOME NEGATIVE INTENTIONALITY |
| fears that doing so will annihilate you. You ardently protect this limited consciousness, yet this very limitation | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| that the limited ego state you have so ardently protected is an illusion: the illusion of death | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| the clear, concise commitment to what you most ardently yearn for. Have you ever thought about the | 208 THE INNATE HUMAN CAPACITY TO CREATE |
| attempt to bring about the fulfillment they so ardently desire with their selfwill. To tell these people | 213 THE SPIRITUAL AND THE PRACTICAL MEANING OF LET GO, LET GOD |
| succeed in hiding this fact from yourself by ardently attempting to produce imaginary desires and goals, acting | 232 BEING VALUES VERSUS APPEARANCE VALUES -- SELF-IDENTIFICATION |
| most vigorously, your inner self longs for most ardently. When the outer self succeeds and rules the | 249 THE PAIN OF INJUSTICE -- COSMIC RECORDS OF ALL EVENTS, DEEDS, EXPRESSIONS |
| Arduous.....................21 | |
| too, is spiritual law. Whoever goes on this arduous path needs a different kind of spiritual help | 8 MEDIUMSHIP -- HOW TO CONTACT GOD'S SPIRIT WORLD |
| prayer, you will find, after a long and arduous search, the common denominator. It is pride. Your | 38 IMAGES |
| then use intellect, thought, and will, in your arduous work on this path at all? The answer | 104 INTELLECT AND WILL AS TOOLS OR HINDRANCES OF SELF-REALIZATION |
| unconscious terror of failure that makes life so arduous. So here we have the pride and the | 108 FUNDAMENTAL GUILT FOR NOT LOVING -- OBLIGATIONS |
| your physical life, not in attaining something through arduous means. It lies solely in the acknowledgement of | 133 LOVE: NOT A COMMANDMENT, BUT SPONTANEOUS SOUL MOVEMENT OF THE INNER SELF |
| struggle against both themselves and life becomes more arduous. The more unconscious your pains and frustrations are | 163 MIND ACTIVITY AND MIND RECEPTIVITY |
| truth of being. It is a long and arduous way, but arduous only because the mind is | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| It is a long and arduous way, but arduous only because the mind is lost in its | 186 VENTURE IN MUTUALITY: HEALING FORCE TO CHANGE NEGATIVE INNER WILL |
| thing it is you are doing. The long arduous years that many of you have spent, and | 187 (THE WAY TO HANDLE) ALTERNATION OF EXPANSIVE AND CONTRACTING STATES |
| over it. And this is always the most arduous part of the pathwork. Nor can it be | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| inner energy flow that is never experienced as arduous or painful, nor as tiring or undesirable in | 190 IMPORTANCE OF EXPERIENCING ALL FEELINGS, INCLUDING FEAR - DYNAMIC STATE OF LAZINESS |
| illusory perceptions can only be eliminated by the arduous work of bringing all your inner worlds into | 193 RÉSUMÉ OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES OF THE PATHWORK: ITS AIM AND PROCESS |
| cosmic, greater self. The ego must lay the arduous groundwork until the real self can come through | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| eternal truth, love, and beauty becomes possible. The arduous task of making the ego flexible always comes | 199 THE MEANING OF THE EGO AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE |
| used to equating task and fulfillment with something arduous, difficult, or even unpleasant. In reality, the more | 207 THE SPIRITUAL SYMBOLISM AND SIGNIFICANCE OF SEXUALITY |
| reason the growth must be slow and sometimes arduous. It is up to you to overcome the | 209 THE ROSCOE LECTURE: INSPIRATION FOR THE PATHWORK CENTER |
| of you have succeeded this past year, after arduous work with negative matter, to effect true transformation | 212 CLAIMING THE TOTAL CAPACITY FOR GREATNESS |
| You who work on this path know how arduous it is to take the emphasis away from | 219 CHRISTMAS MESSAGE -- MESSAGE TO THE CHILDREN |
| is the approach to the self on the arduous path of self-purification. I wish to discuss this | 226 APPROACH TO SELF -- SELF-FORGIVENESS WITHOUT CONDONING THE LOWER SELF |
| and fulfilling inner balance comes only through the arduous path of self- purification. Then it comes as | 228 BALANCE |
| because it actually is the result of many arduous steps and inner battles. Human science has recognized | 256 INNER SPACE, FOCUSED EMPTINESS |